The closest thing we ever hear to real sex aside from the muffled noises of our roommates or neighbors through too-thin walls are the overzealous, often ludicrous yips and moans of porn. Sure, most of us realize it's unrealistic to expect a woman to bellow with such force while giving a blow job -- or seem to be on the edge of climax for 20 minutes without ever actually climaxing. Or, for a man to be almost completely silent for the duration of sex except for the occasional grunt. But for as fake as we perceive porn to be, it's still set the bar for what we think good sex sounds like. The research project allows real women to record their real climaxes for inclusion in an international database so all the world can swap the crappy porn soundtrack we're so accustomed to with the realistic, sexually superior sounds of fast breaths, deep moans, and subtle and hot climaxes. Our ideas of sex and pleasure are fictional In addition to making sex toys, the folks at Bijoux are always looking for ways to empower women while helping them explore their sexuality.
For women in heterosexual relationships, faking an orgasm can also be based on deference to the man, need for his approval, or feelings of shame or sexual inadequacy. For both sexes, the condition of being unable to orgasm during sex is called anorgasmia ; it can be caused by a variety of factors, including factors in one's life such as stress, anxiety, depression, or fatigue, as well as factors related to the sex itself; including worry, guilt, fear of painful intercourse, fear of pregnancy, the undesirability of a partner, and the undesirability of a setting. It can also be caused by drug use, including alcohol and other substances, or side effects from prescription drugs. And if Nature has withheld from you the sensation of pleasure, then teach your lips to lie and say you feel it all. Unhappy is the woman who feels no answering thrill. But, if you have to pretend, don't betray yourself by over-acting.